The pin was a gift. When I first saw it I was puzzled. AS IS? How strange! Who would wear a pin declaring AS IS? My first thought in decoding this message was to think of damaged goods. Just picture commercials that advertise appliances at bargain prices because they have dents and scratches. Remember those washing machines and refrigerators that work just fine, but can't be sold at full price because they are not perfect? Hmm...Damaged goods? What kind of message was this? It [...]
Life transitions occur over and over in the course of our lives. I found additional insights about the process when I recently revisited the works of author Gail Sheehy. In the 1980's she introduced a generation to ways of thinking about change that would foster adult growth and meaning. Today's times may have changed, but her words still contain timeless wisdom for all of us working our way through the passages and pathways of our lives. With each passage of human growth we must shed [...]
"Resilience is accepting your new reality, even if it is less good than the one you had before. You can fight it, you can do nothing but scream about what you've lost, or you can accept that and try to put together something that's good."—Elizabeth Edwards Unexpected or not, we will face adversity at different times throughout the course of our lives. It might be death, divorce, illness or job loss. What inner resources can we call upon and nurture that will help us [...]
Laurie, a 50 year old divorced woman, has been out of work for eight months. She had been with the company for 18 years, felt pride in her work and loyalty to her employer. When the lay-offs began, stress and anxiety spread throughout her department. Coming into work each day she wondered who would be next..."I pray it won't be me". was always on her mind. The day that Laurie found out it was her turn to be fired, as much as she had anticipated [...]
"Just last year I felt on top of the world during the holidays. My job was going well and I was anticipating a promotion. Life was good, until I was laid off." " He didn't get diagnosed until after New Years. Suddenly we were plunged into uncertainty and fear. The promise of the New Year changed to dread. Now I'm a widow of 5 months." "Our Christmas gathering last year was filled with love, warmth and joy. It was so great being all together. We were the [...]
Simsbury CT Selectman Shannon Knall sits with me to discuss "Women In Transition" on this episode of The Simsbury Woman. We discuss the challenges facing women at home and in the workplace. How do we allow imperfection and struggle in the face of a superwoman model? What inner and outer resources can we call upon to help? Learning to "Look, Re-Focus and Re-Frame" is key.